Freedom & Boundaries: the Power of Choices for Toddlers
Doing your own thing is important - especially for toddlers! The freedom and safety to explore and learn in their own way and at their own pace is truly powerful.
That’s why our early childhood music classes are immersive learning environments, where young children are encouraged to be curious, explore, and participate in whatever ways feel natural.
Take a peek in one of our Kindermusik classes, and you’ll see children participating in their own unique ways. During instrument play, it’s completely normal - and accepted! - for some kids playing one way, other kids playing another way, some kids wandering around, and others doing something else entirely! During circle dances, some will insist on holding their parent’s hand or being held, while others independently demand to dance or watch all by themselves.
As healthy and important as these assertions of independence can be for our growing little humans, these moments can be frustrating for adults (like when a child says “no!”). One day, you may find yourself pleased to see that your child is able to stand their ground and assert independence from others. But today, you just want to let your child be themselves while keeping them safe and - let’s be honest - get through your busy day!
One way you can balance your toddler’s need for freedom with the need for boundaries is the use of healthy choices. Choices allow your child to exercise their independence, and maintain boundaries that keep your child safe (and yourself sane).
If you feel that a moment of independence may sink into a power struggle, offer your child two choices:
In one minute we need to clean up. Would you like to clean up by yourself when the timer goes off, or should I help you?
Would you like broccoli or carrots with your lunch today?
Hold my hand as we go to the mailbox. Do you think we should walk or march to get there?
Oh, you have so much energy in your body! I won’t let you throw balls in the house; it’s not safe. Would you like to go outside to throw the ball, or roll your trucks around the kitchen?
Establishing these boundaries keeps your child safe, prevents power struggles, and establishes deeper trust between yourself and your child. They’ll learn that even as they stretch their wings, you’re there to help them navigate their emerging freedom and help them set their sails.
In Kindermusik, we share research-based parenting tips and strategies just like this. Reach out today to find the perfect class for you and your little music maker!
